How to Tell if You are Being Verbally Abused

Verbal abuse usually starts out subtly. Your abusive spouse starts insulting you and if you object, they try to justify their abuse as ‘a joke.’ This form of manipulation is used by bullies, mean girls, and abusers. When the abuser is questioned or held accountable, they turn the tables by telling the victim that they are being too touchy or sensitive. They are deflecting their responsibility and the truth.

Greatest Misunderstood Abuse: Verbal Abuse

Some of us may have grown up believing that we all get angry and say mean things, but as long as we apologize, it’s okay. This belief has a strand of truth. However, when we have this mindset, we are giving ourselves permission to speak unkind words with no consideration for the effect they will have on our victims. All words are created from our heart and it has an intent. God knows the truth even when we try to hide from it.

Facts Christians Need to Know About Domestic Abuse

It’s time for Christ’s disciples to seek to know the true love design of Jesus and to know the types and signs of domestic abuse so that we are not caught unaware. Because we live in this broken world where the devil has influence, we must prepare ourselves with the knowledge of his schemes.

A Secret Weapon of the Enemy

I realized that my whole life had been a quest to find Christ’s true love. I had traded up to lesser abuse with each marriage, while I tried to find Christ’s love through my broken love design.

A Guide to Self-Love in Christ

We can’t earn or prove that we are worthy of being loved, we only need to accept that we are loved unconditionally by Jesus.

3 Healthy Ways to Love Yourself in Christ

When we have grown up in an unhealthy, dysfunctional, or negative environment, we may not realize how we have learned to talk destructively to ourselves, especially when we face a challenge.

Self-Love and Christianity

When you continually let yourself get rundown from serving others, you are not loving yourself.

Let Go of the Self-Blame of Domestic Abuse Through God’s Love and Truth

Let Go of the Self-Blame of Domestic Abuse Through God’s Love and Truth

People who have been in abusive relationships are deceived into […]

Psychological Manipulation

What You Need To Know About Psychological Manipulation

You Can Overcome Challenges Like Jesus

You Can Overcome Challenges Like Jesus

Challenges, trials, and heartaches in life are unavoidable whether you […]

Finding Your True Self in the Loving Presence of God

Finding Your True Self in the Loving Presence of God

In the world of sin and temptations, devout Christians may […]

Learning to Love Yourself after an Abusive Relationship

Learning to Love Yourself after an Abusive Relationship

One of the most frightening and traumatic experiences in life […]

Signs of an Abusive Relationship

5 Signs of an Abusive Relationship

Abusive relationships can be confusing to spot at the beginning […]

Emotional Dependency

Emotional Dependency: All You Need To Know!

Learning From Your Abuse, Breaking The Chain Of Abuse

Learning From Your Abuse, Breaking The Chain Of Abuse

We can learn something from every experience in life, including […]

5 Common Feelings For Victims Of Abuse

5 Common Feelings For Victims Of Abuse

As a victim of abuse, you will feel a lot […]

14 Key Differences Between Healthy and Unhealthy Relationships

If you have realized a relationship you are currently in is primarily in the unhealthy category, it’s time to see the truth.

5 Things You Can Do To Overcome Your Abuse

5 Things You Can Do To Overcome Your Abuse

If you’ve ever been through an abusive relationship, there are […]

3 Reasons Why Christians Can Choose Unhealthy Relationships

If you are like me, and you never learned about healthy relationships, or you didn’t have healthy role models, there’s no way for you to discern unhealthy manipulation camouflaged in compliments, gifts, or continual time with the person.

Cost of Unhealthy Boundaries or Empowerment of Healthy Boundaries in Christ

“Turn the other cheek, forgive everyone, and pretend nothing happened; […]

Final Two Key Aspects of Healthy Boundaries in Christ

“I just want someone to take care of me.” This […]

Key Aspects of Healthy Boundaries in Christ: 1 and 2

What are your boundaries? How have they protected you? Ready […]

Key Truth About Healthy Boundaries in Christ

Why do people need boundaries? If we only acted in […]

Ignite Your Awareness of Christ’s Exceptional Love

I took my first painting class as a sophomore in […]

5 Elements of Christ’s Exceptional Love

“99% of the mass of the human body is made […]

Discover Christ’s Exceptional Love Design

If you have struggled to feel truly loved, you are not alone. There’s nothing wrong with you. Don’t be fooled by the mind fog, confusion, and lies of the enemy that you’re not worthy to be loved.

Where to Find Perfect Love

Until we discover how to let Christ’s perfect love flow in us and work through us, we can be easily deceived into thinking we just need to find our “perfect love,” in another person.

3 Reasons Why You Are Living

You are a ‘new creation’ in Christ. You will be different than people who are not walking in Christ’s light of love, joy, truth, grace, and peace.

How to Find Your Value?

Your true value comes from who made you and whose identity you stand in. The only way to see your priceless value is to learn Christ’s truth and partner with him.

#1 Need: To Feel Loved

Whether you grew up in a loving home or you didn’t, you may struggle to feel you are worthy to be loved or that you are truly loved.

Guide to Finding Safety and Provision in Christ

I had to live like I believed God was good and He had the best plans for me and my children; MORE than the fear I felt, the questions I had, and the uncertain circumstances I faced.

Secret Guide to Our 5 Invisible Needs

If someone asked you to write down what you need […]

How to Thrive in Your Unique Identity

Even after believers are saved, most of them don’t learn who they are in Christ.

Uncover the Truth: Your Identity’s Not from the World’s Value

I began to understand that my identity didn’t come from the conditions of my birth, what people said, how I felt, the experiences I had, or the value others placed on me.

Cracking the “Who You Are” Code

When you believe your identity originates or it is determined by imperfect people (including yourself), you will constantly feel a need to prove yourself, fix yourself, or punish yourself.

Top 3 Questions About Lust from Christians

Although lust starts as a thought, you must keep thinking on it for it to become a temptation.

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Love Fantasy and Domestic Abuse

Choosing to stay in my first thirteen-year abusive marriage almost ended in my death and my ex-husband’s death. Love fantasies are destructive, unwise, and deadly.

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How Faith Fantasies Affect Your Love Design

When you only see love through the lens of your broken love design, it skews your understanding of Christ’s love. Through your broken love, you may create a faith fantasy to cope or to control your unhealthy or hurtful relationships

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Lust Fantasies: The Hook and the Truth

Feeling loved is the hope, wish, and dream of every person on this earth. Fantasy fuels your dream that if you had “a perfect man” who always thinks your beautiful, who doesn’t see any of your faults, and who will always do what you want, your life would be great.

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Change Your Love Design: Change Your Life

Whenever you wake up, you will experience change. You can’t stop change, and you can’t stop your body from dying. Change in your life will come.

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7 Signs of a Toxic Love

Depending on the dynamics, standards, and version of love you grew up with you may not realize Christ’s love design. You may have accepted that being disrespected, blamed, shamed, and abused is normal when the person apologizes.

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What Does Love Mean to You?

The first step to changing your design of love is to realize that your design is broken and unhealthy. The next step is to find a love design that is pure, respectful, and honoring and to live in this design.

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Code for Love

Although you can’t instantly wipe your broken love design clean like the memory in a corrupted computer, you can choose a new code for your broken love design to follow.

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New Year: New Definition of Love?

I love spaghetti, I love music, and I love you; […]

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Keep the Contagious Spirit of Christmas

Christmas is the only holiday when people and communities are focused on being compassionate, generous, and caring for friends as well as strangers.

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3 Choices for a Happy Christmas

Choose to celebrate Christ’s birthday OR your past experiences. Intentionally choose to keep your focus and joy on Jesus and not on the world’s choice to fill it with self-absorbed reasons.

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Pendulum of Thanksgiving

When abusers show their good side, it reminds their victims of what they fell for, and it brings FALSE hope. The victims wants her abusive husband to be healed and her marriage to be all she had hoped for.

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Difficult Mother-in-Law: What to do at Thanksgiving?

The first truth you must face is about your difficult mother-in-law is that you have NO control over what she will say or do. However, you don’t have to allow her to be abusive to you or your children in any way.

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Fall Season: Comforting or a Whirlwind?

Many people love the season of fall and embrace the change. Other people become more stressed and uptight when there are any changes in their life. In their struggle to go with the flow, they have a hard time seeing the gifts of joy.

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3 Ways Churches can Support Victims of Domestic Abuse in Their Congregation

The people in our congregations, Christ’s people, are hurting and confused. They don’t know where to find help to understand how Christ’s design of love is different than theirs.

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Ultimate Plea of an Abused Christian Wife

Many Christian marriages are struggling to find happiness and fulfillment. They love each other, they go to church together, they pray together, but they can’t seem to stop fighting or being frustrated. Some of these marriages may be in an abusive cycle without knowing it.

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13 Red Flags Your Christian Boyfriend or Spouse is Abusive

Giving your heart to someone is the most precious and intimate gift you can give them because Christ lives in you. For this reason, you must make sure the person you give your heart to will love you in Christ’s design of love and marriage.

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#1 Scripture Used by Abusive Christian Husband’s

Submission must be given. Submission doesn’t mean women do not have a voice, opinion, or influence on our husbands. Submission does not mean we are slaves and obligated to do whatever our husbands want; especially if it is abusive or goes against the morals and character of Christ.

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3 Abusive Phrases That Destroy Your Relationship

The frequency and level of abuse may change, but the certainty of being abused will not. When you are with an abusive person, they will continue to do what they know until they choose to learn and act in healthy ways.

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Jesus Forgives Betrayal

“How could you betray me?” I asked this question to […]

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3 Red Flags to Head Off Trouble in Your Christian Marriage

We all do what we know, and we measure up to what we have come to accept as okay or “normal.” When you do not know or understand how to use Christ’s heart and character as your definition and design of love, you will use what you know.

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What to Do with Bad Choices Through Faith

Our faith in Christ requires us to trust him no matter what people say, how things look, or how we feel.

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5 Truths You Can Find in Your Desert

The longer I go without the living waters of peace from Jesus the worse my internal condition becomes and my external challenges look. I feel like I am caught in a dirt-devil depleting my strength, resources, and faith. When you sense your peace in Christ is being disrupted, stop and go to Jesus for direction. He promises to walk with you as he leads you in his peace. Trust him and keep praying or trying new steps until you feel his peace.

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STOP the Cancer of Hurtful Secrets

There is a darkness around secrets that will remain until they are brought into Christ’s light. Darkness is where the devil and all evil secrets and schemes have the ability to keep you imprisoned.

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People Versus Things (3 Questions to Ask Yourself)

When our “normal” is unhealthy and promotes using people to get what you want, you become a disrespectful user and often an abuser of people.  Likewise, women who grow up in this unhealthy environment come to believe is it “normal” and expected for them to be used and live their life as a victim if they are to be loved.

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$10, 1 Million, or Priceless: How Much Are You Worth?

I was never taught how I was deceived by my childhood thoughts, beliefs, mistakes, and life experiences concerning my value. I discovered these lies, and my self-worth began being transformed when I consistently studied God’s word. My understanding deepened as my relationship with Christ flourished. I became devoted to learning what it means to let Jesus be the originator of my value and to live like I believed him.

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Authentic or Imitation (What are You?)

For most of my childhood, I tried being a “perfect little girl” so I would be noticed and loved by my parents. In my teens, I tried to fit into the clicks by partying. In my thirteen-year abusive marriage, I tried to be what my abusive ex-husband kept telling me to be. You see, I know first-hand how easy it is to be deceived into believing you are not enough. I bought the lie of the devil that I had to be what someone else wanted me to be to feel loved. What deceptions are you caught in right now?

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I’ve Left My Abusive Husband, Now What?

God is NOT mad at you. His will is not for you to be hurt or abused by your husband.

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Dependence is Freedom

History shows us that when imperfect people use their independence to get what they desire without any consideration of others and a foundation of love and honor, the result is hurt, abuse, and devastation.

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Surrender is Not Defeat

The process of surrender is constant and requires you to be intentional. Ever present is our flesh self-will wanting to do things “our way” and in “our time.” However, our way is the opposite of trusting and surrendering to Jesus.

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I Just Want to Feel Loved

If you are looking for love in all the wrong places and still feeling love-starved, why not look to Jesus through a personal relationship. The only way to change the love in your life is to CHANGE what you have been doing. Transformational changes take place in the renewing your mind and heart through Christ Jesus. These changes empower you to intentionally choose your thoughts, words, attitudes, and actions to mirror his.

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Is Your Problem an Opportunity?

Unfortunately, many Christians have not been taught how to use Christ’s strength in them to help them face and overcome their problems. Jesus shows us the importance of acknowledging, examining, and the steps necessary to overcome our problems through his love, example, and scripture.

We all start out as infants using our emotions and cries to alert others to our basic needs. Some of you have never grown out of the emotional reactionary demand for what we desire, want, or need, especially if people have always given into you. You may think you have control over others but in the end, you are an emotional mess. The truth is, your emotions have made a slave of you. The good news is, you can learn a new empowering mindset and behavior to free yourself from using your out-of-control emotional reactions.

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I Just Want to Be Happy!

However, most of us try to figure out how to be happy on our own. We use what we know from our beliefs, mindsets, and experiences. If you grew up in a negative, hurtful, or abusive environment, you might have come to believe happiness is rare, circumstantial, and short-lived. Some of you may also believe you were not meant to or deserve to be happy from the messages and treatment you received from others.

All your messages, beliefs, and experiences have combined throughout your life to create your unique definition and understanding of happiness. Then it is filtered through your personality and tendency to be optimistic or pessimistic.

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What is the Love Chapter?

Without knowing God’s true meaning, I interpreted this chapter through the imperfect lens of my broken love experiences. My misguided understanding of love twisted my mindset. I saw love as me giving my all, while my spouse enjoyed it. I didn’t have equal expectations for the way he treated me. In this mindset, I saw the success or failure of my marriage as my sole responsibility. My one-sided and love-starved mindset and misunderstanding of God’s design for love and marriage made me vulnerable to become a victim of domestic abuse.

The primary trap for me was the illusion that my husband loved me, especially since I felt love-starved. The reason I stayed and kept trying to make my marriage work was my commitment to God in my marriage vows. I knew I had to give God and my husband my all. With my twisted understanding of love, I continued to be abused for thirteen years.

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What is Your Recipe for Love?

I never realized God created the perfect recipe, design, and aspects of love until I was in my thirties. No one ever told me, and I wouldn’t be surprised if no one told you. After several abusive marriages ending in divorce, I began to study the life of Jesus. He showed me his love is not a feeling. His pure love “is” the substance of all of God’s goodness and it “does” everything to honor Him, others, and yourself. Just as I needed the right ingredients to successfully bake mom’s cake recipe, I needed to know Christ’s recipe for love to live in each aspect.
Christ’s characteristics, words, and actions helped me understand what my thoughts, words, attitudes, and actions will look like when I love as he does. It also revealed what a marriage looks like in his design with gentleness, kindness, and selflessness. His love revealed the flaws I had unknowingly created in my definition of love.

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Who is Accountable for Blowing Up?

My mindset led me to accept it was “normal” for a woman to expect to be punished if she provoked her husband’s anger. The enemy loves to twist a strand of truth with rationalizations, excuses, and entitlement in your mind to justify why someone who professes to love you, would hurt you. I didn’t realize that my marriage focused on making my husband happy to avoid making him mad, instead of love. At this point in my life, I didn’t know about God’s design of love and marriage.

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Cutting Through the Confusion of Love

One of the hardest things for me to accept and practice was the reality that this list was meant for me to follow and it is also the standards for which I was to receive love from others. God’s second commandment for me to love others as I love myself placed the loving relationship between two people on equal standards.

Abuse is NEVER Pure Love

Jesus NEVER allowed anyone to abuse him until he gave himself to be the sacrifice for our sins. Being Christ-like is to imitate him. We are not called to let people abuse us but to love us in the pure substance of Christ’s love living in and flowing through us.

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You Have an Umbrella of Protection

There have been many times growing up when I wished I could have pulled out my umbrella to shield myself from the storms of life. Unlike my fun in the rain as a little girl, real-life challenges have proven to be anything but fun. They also seem to come in their timing and not by your choice. As a young adult, when I faced challenges, I tried to protect myself and to find my own solutions while praying for God to help me.

However, as I have grown in a deeper understanding of Christ through our evolving relationship, I realize he is my shield of protection. He needs to be the first thing I cling to and not my thoughts or plans. Jesus himself told us we would face trials on this broken earth in our imperfect bodies. Our trials help us see the depth of our faith and what we need to work on in partnership with him. When I dwell with Jesus and allow him to direct my steps, I can rest at peace in his provision, protection, and abounding love in the midst of life’s storms. Living in faith doesn’t mean that a storm will go away unless Jesus chooses to calm my storm. It means Jesus is my umbrella and I am never alone. As I hold on to him, he keeps my sight clear and focused on his love and solutions as we walk through the storms of life together.

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What Does it Mean to Know Jesus?

My revelation of knowing and trusting Jesus lives in me frees me to stop focusing on how I will live my day; to how Jesus and I, will live our day. I know my union with Christ isn’t some thought I choose to believe or proclaim, it is now my spiritual DNA. Once you KNOW there is no separation from Jesus; Christ becomes the point of origin for all your thoughts, emotions, and actions. Your motive in and through Christ is to come from his pure love.

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Who is the Superhero Living in You?

You may not be able to call down a thunderbolt from the sky or to shrink to the size of an ant or to deflect bullets from your bracelets of gold. However, you may have the superpower of friendliness, to talk to anyone because they feel comfortable with you. You may have the superpower of a generous heart, continually finding ways to bless people. You may have the superpower of laughter, making people laugh where ever you go. All of these are an example of specific superpowers most of us don’t even recognize. What would your life look like if you recognized and lived in your superpowers every day? How would your mind, relationships, and life change?

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Create Your Fresh Beginning

You cannot run before you roll over or crawl and you cannot skip the steps of healing. You will need to cross the paradigm bridge from where you are to your fresh beginning of living in Christ’s design of love. Your healing will be much like a chick breaking out of its shell or a butterfly breaking free from its cocoon.

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How Do You Handle Change?

If you struggle to embrace or adapt to change, I encourage you to investigate what makes you uncomfortable. As long as you are alive, you’ll never be free from change or challenges.

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Discover the Promises of Spring

Every season during the year brings challenges, blessings, and changes to us and our environment. Each season reveals the condition of our health as we mature in life. Likewise, we can see the condition of our faith with the internal challenges of a season.

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You Can Walk Through Life’s Winds

We will all face storms on this broken earth and in our imperfectness. When you let your emotions and the winds or storms in your life overshadow the power and faithfulness of Jesus Christ in you, you will feel like you are sinking. Always remember, you are in charge of your emotions and your thoughts. Only you can choose to stand on the promise of Jesus because he lives in you. He is always with you no matter where you go and how you feel.

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Youer Than You, Celebrating the Truths of Dr. Seuss

The greatest truth for you to know is that you don’t have to hide your individuality. You don’t have to follow or become a victim of the world’s self-serving demands, values, and low morals. Only you have the power to choose what to believe about your distinctiveness and who’s moral design you will follow.

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How to Recognize God’s Love in Others

In my abusive marriage, my isolation continued. Anytime I would begin to get close to someone my ex-husband would break off the friendship with their spouse or tell them lies so they would stop being my friend. In the midst of surviving I didn’t see the manipulation and reality as abuse because my abusive ex-husband would use this pain to prove there was something wrong with me. When I made my decision to leave my marriage, I found myself with many opportunities to make new friends, but I didn’t know how to find healthy friends.

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How to Tell if You Are Living in Christ’s Love

Living in Christ’s love involves all the aspects of our imperfect human condition filtered and transformed through the pure love of Jesus in us. Loving our enemies or people who profess to love us, doesn’t mean we need to volunteer to let them hurt us. In fact, if they truly love us, they would love us as Christ did with selfless love.

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What is God’s Design of Love and Marriage Verses The Worlds

The world defines marriage as a try-out relationship between any combination of male and female. The world’s idea of marriage is based on self-gratification, personal preference, and it can be terminated for any reason. Starting any relationship with these elements as its foundation sets the relationship up for failure automatically. In fact, God tells us specifically how we are to treat each other in Christ’s love within our marriage. He also talks about divorce in the Bible. As our creator, God knows we will twist His definition of marriage to meet our selfish, sinful desires. However, this doesn’t change His design for marriage and the characteristics we should reveal as a Christ-follower in our marriage.

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How to Uncover Your Definition of Love

The billions of accepted imperfect truths about love and marriage are the ultimate playground for the devil. He loves to invite you to get on the merry-go-round of trying to fix yourself. You spin around with the hope that being what he wants will magically make him stop hurting you and love you. The enemy uses your swinging emotions to lure victims on the monkey-bars of blame. He makes you believe everything is your responsibility to carry and move along, and it’s your fault if anything goes wrong. The devil loves to place you on the see-saw of a few good moments to keep you fantasizing your abuser is secretly a loving person amidst all the pain you experience daily.

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Being Perfect Won’t Change Your Abuser

If God doesn’t require you to be perfect or something you are not, then it’s not God’s design for your spouse, who professes to love you, to demand perfection from you. You alone have the power to choose what you believe as your truth.

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Discover the Resources Within You and Overcome

After all my loose papers were in the right pile, I organized and prioritized them. I chose to take all my chaos and turn it into an opportunity to take inventory. After my clean up session, I knew what resources I had or needed, what I had done, and what I needed to do. I felt like I had not only cleaned my office, but I had cleared my mind. With a clear head, I found new strength and determination to continue my mission for the day with clear purpose.

Overcome Your Anxiety, Fear, And Powerlessness In Your Hurtful Relationship. Are You Being Abused?

I spent thirteen years in an abusive marriage to a “Christian” man because I believed if I separated from him or divorced him, God would be mad at me and not forgive me. I was in the same place many of you are right now—confused, and uncertain.

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How to Make Sure You’re Financially Stable in the Future

Many Christians take the stand that the woman shouldn’t work. However, in this day and age, it often takes both the husband and wife to work to live above the poverty level. I look at the verses in Proverbs 31. God’s word describes the wife with activities including purchasing materials, buying property, planting vineyards, doing business which includes managing people, and also taking care of her family. Women must be prepared to become the sole provider due to unexpected death, abandonment, or divorce. To ensure you are prepared to be the sole provider, you’ll need to figure out what you like to do and what skills you need to learn to build a career.

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How to Take Control of Your Emotions

If you choose to continue to let your emotions lead your mind and decision, you will be like a hamster in her exercise wheel running aimlessly going nowhere. All of the negative emotions listed at the top will continue to increase and intensify leaving you more confused and feeling powerless. They will take over any positive emotions, and you’ll be left with depression and anxiety that will show up in your physical condition as panic attacks, stomach issues, or addiction to ease your pain.

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Dreams are Possibilities, but Fantasies are Dangerous

Even when you achieve a dream, it may not necessarily happen the way you wished it would.

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Jesus Our Savior is Born!

Only Mary and Joseph knew Jesus was the Son of […]

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How to Avoid Disappointment and Frustration This Christmas Season

Family dynamics, especially where abuse has happened or is currently happening, are often challenging and hard on a normal day, let alone the Holidays. To avoid and even prevent disappointment, let’s look at the definition of expectation.

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How to Create Hallmark Moments in the Middle of Abuse

Every day you use your power to make decisions, both big and small. To make Hallmark moments for you and your children, you’ll have to decide to focus on the reason for Christmas—the hope and love of Jesus Christ

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Focus on Your Promising Savior—Look for Your Star of Bethlehem

Christmas became my opportunity to hold on to my hope of God’s promises and rejoice that I was not alone. I kept looking for my Star of Bethlehem to find my way through my traverse life. I knew deep in my heart and spirit that abuse was not God’s will for my life or my children, but I didn’t know how to find my way out.

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Triumphant Power of Thankfulness

Thankfulness helps you keep your eyes on God, the one who created you, and Jesus, the one who proved you were worth dying for. Gratefulness keeps Jesus in front of your emotions while it keeps him greater than your circumstances.

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Thanksgiving Acronym to Keep You Encouraged

I didn’t realize when I was asking God my questions from my heart; I was praying. Once I starting speaking my prayers out loud, I felt like I was finally being real with Jesus. I wanted him to know my pain, anger, fear, and confusion. I needed to be real and not pretend with him like I did with other people in my life.

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What’s on Your Thanksgiving Menu?

It’s easy to get overwhelmed and sucked into the dark survival mode in an abusive marriage or relationship.  What if you could use a recipe to create times of joy and hope this Thanksgiving for you and your children. Do you have anything to lose?

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Abuse and the Narcissistic Man

Without understanding the truth about God’s design for love and marriage which exclude abuse, she feels trapped by her marriage vow under God.

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Stop the Pandemic of Spouse Abuse in the Church

God’s people or the Church is called to rise up and be part of the solution to stop the pandemic of abuse and domestic violence. Without injecting God’s truth, transforming grace, support for healing, and discipleship training, the devil will continue to destroy individuals, marriages, families, churches, communities, and countries. Loving others “IS” to help our abused sisters and abusive brothers overcome their deceptions and infiltration of the enemy.

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When “I’m Sorry” Is a Twisted Lie?

The lies of the abuser can make the Christian victim even more confused if she doesn’t know the truth about God’s love for her. He uses parts of scripture to manipulate and guilt her into believing his “sorry” means she must act like nothing happened to prove she forgives him.

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Is Being Understanding About Abuse Biblical?

Jesus instructed us to forgive those who hurt us. However, he did not tell women to understand or allow ourselves to be hurt, humiliated, manipulated, a doormat, or controlled by our Christian husband. In fact, God’s loving design for marriage is for a husband to love their wife and treat her as if she was Christ himself.

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The Silent Pandemic of Native American Women

“While missing person statistics are compiled for every other demographic, none exist for Native American women.”

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8.3 Billion Annual Business Buster

Abuse cannot be turned off in your mind at work, especially when 73% of abused women are harassed by their abuser at work. Between their harassment at work and the abuse they receive at home, 21 to 60% of abused women lose their jobs stemming from abuse.

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The Venus Fly Trap of Sin

This illustration parallels the believer’s decision to walk around the edges of temptation as the devil is our Venus flytrap. Like the plant which emits a scent and a blue glow to lure flies into its mouth, the devil makes sin look fun and gratifying.

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The Riddle of Time as a Child of God

God moves in looped time with His purpose and plan for us to all have the opportunity to spend eternity with Him.

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How to Recognize When Charisma is Corrupt

To recognize when charisma is infected with evil, and it becomes corrupt, you will need to understand the pure origin versus the definition of charisma. 

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What is a Heilan’ Coo?

Adventures and discoveries often go hand in hand when you travel.

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From Castles to Jets

The rich mixture of Scotland’s history reminds me how every place, belief, and person is the result of what came before.

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Do You Know Your Love Language With Jesus?

Is it any wonder the ways I experienced and understood the world’s definition of love were the exact ways the enemy wounded me?

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Amazing Sculpture of Michelangelo

What is God chipping away in your life to reveal the masterpiece He created you to be?

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The Slimy Pit of Abuse

When you are in a pit, you hear familiar voices the loudest. If these voices are the imperfect people who devastate your spirit and heart, or they are your self-criticism, it is hard to hear the voice of Jesus telling you he loves you.

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Epic Formula to Win Over Evil: An Old Cherokee Tale of Two Wolves

It is vital for you to understand each aspect of your soul and how it affects your life or you are making your soul, your spiritual heart’s core, your core needs, and your identity vulnerable to the enemy.

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How to Survive the Winds of Life

The winds of life swirl to and fro inside and outside wherever you go. You can not run, and you can not hide. How can you face them and live to thrive?

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How Sickness Can Increase Your Faith

We all face sickness but some of us, like my mother, lived in a continual state of illness in her mind and body. Some days it was a feat for her to get out of bed and get dressed. However, one of the most amazing character traits she emanated was her ability to be grateful and not complain.

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How to Live in the Magic of Disneyland Every Day With Jesus

Disneyland has been called the “happiest place on earth,” and I would agree it is one of them. However, once you leave the park, how will you keep your dreams, creativity, and pursue all you can be in this broken world?

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How to Prevent a Project from Going Wrong

When I believed I knew better than the plans created for a project or I skimped on cost by not using good quality, I made a wreck of my project. The same reality is true when I have ignored, altered, or skimped on God’s plans for me. In fact, some of my choices have almost destroyed me.

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What You Need to Know About the Cornerstone of Your Life

If you do not attend a church, or you have not been taught by a mature believer how to keep Jesus as the cornerstone of your life, you will not know about your faith responsibilities, challenges, defenses, or consequences.

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5 Signs You Might be Turning Into a Difficult Person

5 Signs You Might be Turning into a Difficult Person. Would you want your exact twin to take care of you?

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Tips for Putting Your Life’s Puzzle Together

I tried to force a piece of my life to fit my agenda at all cost. My self-focused decisions and stubbornness resulted in frustration, pain, and strife.

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Break the Myth of Perfection and Following God

God’s love is not dependent upon your performance or aim for perfection. He is most interested in your love and heart.

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Where to Find Light in the Dark Places of Life

Have you ever had an exhilarating day and then received […]

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What to do With Your Question . . Why?

You know the favorite question of a three-year-old—why? Why do […]

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Unique Definition of Motherhood

The miracle of birth has touched everyone, even Jesus. We all come into this world from a mother’s womb. Some of us are primarily raised by the one who birthed us, and some of us have come to know the bond between our heart and a woman who loves and nurtures us as our mother. God decided to bless me with four mothers in my life:

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Does Faith in Jesus Automatically Fix Everything?

Have you ever wondered why faith does not automatically fix […]

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Are Your Excuses Enslaving You?

The Dictionary’s definition of an excuse is:  To provide a reason or explanation for somebody’s behavior that makes it appear more acceptable or less offensive; justification; a false reason; a bad example.

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What Does it Mean to Follow Jesus?

Have you ever bought into someone offering you a new theory or quick fix? They profess that if you believe and follow their plans, you can experience their results. Unfortunately, some of us follow them blindly only to discover their theories or promises are deceptive, unsustainable, and even harmful.

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Jesus Is Alive

These three words make it possible for whosoever believes and accepts Jesus as their Savior, to have a new heart, mind, and life. Only the promise of God and the sacrifice of Jesus made it possible for the spirit of Jesus to live in us and transform us.

Our Savior and the Kingdom of Heaven

Have you ever wondered if Jesus knew how his life […]

Guard Your Peace

Have you ever clicked a new tab at the top […]

Are You Speaking Words of Life or Death?

My mom never went to college, but you would never […]

Is Swankles a Word?

The Oxford Dictionary editors add approximately 1000 words a year. […]

Fear of Flying or Fear of Dying—Which One is It?

“The air up in the clouds is very pure and […]

Don’t Wait quote

Faith is–quote

Love Yourself–Quote

Magnify–Song by We Are Messangers

Magnify I’ve been trying to make sense of the sorrow […]

Make Today Count–Quote

Fearless–Song by Jasmine Murray

Fearless I wake upI feel itThose fears are back againCan’t […]

Monkey Bars of Life–Quote C.S. Lewis

Right Track–Quote

Never Been A Moment–song by Micah Tyler

Never Been A Moment I’ve been sinnerI’ve been a saintA […]

Have You Ever Wanted to Be a Hermit Crab?

Beep, beep . . . beep, beep . . . […]

F.E.A.R. Has Two Meanings–Quote

Rise–Song by Danny Gokey

“Rise” There’s a brokenness inside of youThere’s a wound that […]

Will You Choose–I’m Possible or Impossible for Your Life?

What would happen to your mind, heart, and life if […]

How You See Things–Quote

Difficult Roads–Quote

Chain Breaker–Zack Williams

Chain Breaker If you’ve been walking the same old road […]

What Do Your Daydreams Reveal?

Are you conscious of the thoughts, images, hopes, and fantasies […]

Don’t Give Up–quote

Day One–Matthew West

Day One Well, I wish I had a short term […]

What Has Waiting Taught You?

As a child, you couldn’t wait to grow up, to […]

Life is Short, I Want to Live it Well–Switchfoot

We’ve only got one life to live which determines our […]

Cure the Loneliness Epidemic

You can send a message to someone on the other […]

Yesterday is History–quote

Move (Keep Walking) –Toby Mac

How to Stop Letting Your Emotions Lead You

What if I choose the wrong thing? –FEAR How can […]

Resolutions . . . Wishes or Reality?

It is surreal how the beginning of a New Year […]

Baby Jesus Mirrors Our Beginning

    The birth of Jesus reveals that God knows […]

2016 Gratefulness Memorial

Fear , doubt, and entitlement cannot share the same space […]

The Miracle of Christmas

Suddenly a great company of the heavenly host appeared with […]

Who is Your Family at Christmas?

Family comes to mind as the day’s countdown to Christmas. […]

I’m Not the Potter

 Yet you, LORD, are our Father. We are the clay, […]

Faith Released – Blessings Received

“Truly I tell you, unless you change and become likelittle […]

I Am Redeemed

    The song, “I Am Redeemed,” by Big Daddy […]

Helmet of Salvation

    Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of […]

Dancing With God

    I came across this encouraging acronym explanation and […]

Where Do You Call Home?

I just returned from a cruise to Alaska with family […]

Imagine and Live a Bold Brave Life

  Be bold enough to use your voice, brave enough […]

God Keeps His Promises of a New Day

    What would you do or how would you […]


    A friend is someone who knows the song […]

Fear Shot Down

    Be on your guard; stand firm in the […]

Finding My Edges

“When you have come to the edge of all the […]

God is Everywhere

  Many of us struggle to see God. Because He’s […]