Resources
FOR VICTIMS AND SURVIVORS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
NATIONAL CRISIS ORGANIZATIONS AND ASSISTANCE:
The National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)
www.ndvh.org
National Dating Abuse Helpline
1-866-331-9474
www.loveisrespect.org
National Child Abuse Hotline/Childhelp
1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)
www.childhelp.org
National Sexual Assault Hotline
1-800-656-4673 (HOPE)
www.rainn.org
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
1-800-273-8255 (TALK)
www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org
National Center for Victims of Crime
1-202-467-8700
www.victimsofcrime.org
National Human Trafficking Resource Center/Polaris Project
Call: 1-888-373-7888 | Text: HELP to BeFree (233733)
www.polarisproject.org
National Network for Immigrant and Refugee Rights
1-510-465-1984
www.nnirr.org
National Coalition for the Homeless
1-202-737-6444
www.nationalhomeless.org
National Resource Center on Domestic Violence
1-800-537-2238
www.nrcdv.org and www.vawnet.org
Futures Without Violence: The National Health Resource Center on Domestic Violence
1-888-792-2873
www.futureswithoutviolence.org
National Center on Domestic Violence, Trauma & Mental Health
1-312-726-7020 ext. 2011
www.nationalcenterdvtraumamh.org
National Runaway Safeline
1-800-RUNAWAY or 1-800-786-2929
www.1800runaway.org
CHILDREN
Childhelp USA/National Child Abuse Hotline
1-800-422-4453
www.childhelpusa.org
Children’s Defense Fund
202-628-8787
www.childrensdefense.org
Child Welfare League of America
202-638-2952
www.cwla.org
National Council on Juvenile and Family Court Judges
Child Protection and Custody/Resource Center on Domestic Violence
1-800-527-3233
www.ncjfcj.org
Center for Judicial Excellence
info@centerforjudicialexcellence.org
www.centerforjudicialexcellence.org
TEENS
Love is respect
Hotline: 1-866-331-9474
www.loveisrespect.org
Break the Cycle
202-824-0707
www.breakthecycle.org
DIFFERENTLY ABLED
Domestic Violence Initiative
(303) 839-5510/ (877) 839-5510
www.dviforwomen.org
Deaf Abused Women’s Network (DAWN)
Email: Hotline@deafdawn.org
VP: 202-559-5366
www.deafdawn.org
WOMEN OF COLOR
Women of Color Network
1-800-537-2238
www.wocninc.org
INCITE! Women of Color Against Violence
incite.natl@gmail.com
www.incite-national.org
IMMIGRANT
The National Immigrant Women’s Advocacy Project
(202) 274-4457
http://www.niwap.org/
INDIGENOUS WOMEN
National Indigenous Women’s Resource Center
855-649-7299
www.niwrc.org
ASIAN/PACIFIC ISLANDER
Asian and Pacific Islander Institute on Domestic Violence
1-415-954-9988
www.apiidv.org
Committee Against Anti-Asian Violence (CAAAV)
1-212- 473-6485
www.caaav.org
Manavi
1-732-435-1414
www.manavi.org
AFRICAN-AMERICAN
The Black Church and Domestic Violence Institute
1-770-909-0715
www.bcdvi.org
LESBIAN, BI-SEXUAL, GAY, TRANSGENDER, GENDER NON-CONFORMING
The Audre Lorde Project
1-178-596-0342
www.alp.org
LAMBDA GLBT Community Services
1-206-350-4283
http://www.qrd.org/qrd/www/orgs/avproject/main.htm
National Gay and Lesbian Task Force
1-202-393-5177
www.ngltf.org
Northwest Network of Bisexual, Trans, Lesbian & Gay Survivors of Abuse
1-206-568-7777
www.nwnetwork.org
Trans Lifeline
877-565-8860
www.translifeline.org
ABUSE IN LATER LIFE
National Clearinghouse on Abuse in Later Life
1-608-255-0539
www.ncall.us
National Center for Elder Abuse
1-855-500-3537
www.aginginplace.org
MEN
National Organization for Men Against Sexism (NOMAS)
1-720-466-3882
www.nomas.org
A Call to Men
1-917-922-6738
www.acalltomen.org
Men Stopping Violence
1-866-717-9317
www.menstoppingviolence.org
LEGAL
Battered Women’s Justice Project
1-800-903-0111
www.bwjp.org
Legal Momentum
1-212-925-6635
www.legalmomentum.org
Womenslaw.org
www.womenslaw.org
National Clearinghouse for the Defense of Battered Women
1-800-903-0111 x 3
www.ncdbw.org
Legal Network for Gender Equity
nwlc.org/join-the-legal-network/
RESOURCES FOR THOSE WORKING WITH VICTIMS AND SURVIVORS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
HELPFUL BRIEFS AND PAPERS
From Responding to Intimate Violence in Relationship Programs (RIViR)
Current Approaches to Addressing Intimate Partner Violence in Healthy Relationship Programs
Abuse and Domestic Violence Information
The domestic abuse and violence information on this website was created to help all victims of abuse, especially those who are Christians or “Christ-followers.” It was created to help and inform domestic abuse and violence victims, survivors, their friends, families, caregivers, and employers to understand the realities of abuse and how to help the victims. The website’s domestic violence and abuse information for women or men is not intended to take the place of professional counseling or advice.
“Domestic abuse is the willful intimidation, coercion, manipulation, battery, physical or sexual assault, and other abusive behavior used in a systematic pattern of power and control over a partner in an intimate relationship. Domestic abuse has been experienced by 47% of the population (30% women and 17% men).” (National Coalition Against Domestic Violence). Whether the abuser is male or female, abuse is never acceptable or God’s will. All abusers must choose to change, and they will be accountable to Jesus if they do not repent. Because I am a woman who has overcome abuse, my website positions the woman as the victim and the male as the abuser. Make no mistake, men are abused too, and I acknowledge their victimization. I intend no disrespect or discounting of their pain.
However, I can only speak from a female’s perspective as that is what I am. If you are a man being abused, the same signs and Christ’s design of healthy love apply to you. You were not created to be abused.
What is Abuse and Domestic Violence?
“Domestic Violence or domestic abuse is the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control over another partner in an intimate relationship.” (National Coalition Against Domestic Violence) Physical, emotional, verbal, financial, sexual, and psychological are the main categories of abuse.
Are You in an Abusive Relationship?
Place a checkmark next to the right of statements that are true for you.
| Red Flags of Abuse: How to Spot an Abuser: Includes Physical, Emotional, Verbal, and Psychological | |
| You feel like you are walking on eggshells, even though he says he loves you. | |
| He refuses to help you when you are sick, injured, or pregnant. | |
| He calls you or your children bad names. | |
| He is jealous, angry, and accuses you of flirting or having sex with other men. | |
| He publicly shows sexual interest in other women. | |
| He commits sadistic and hurtful sexual acts. | |
| He humiliates you or your friends and family in public. | |
| He keeps you from working and controls your money. | |
| He lies and breaks promises continually. | |
| He has a sense of entitlement and superiority. | |
| He blames you and other people for his faults and mistakes. | |
| He subjects you to reckless driving or prevents you from driving. | |
| He punches walls, slams doors, and brakes your belongings. | |
| He gets in your face or positions himself to tower over you. | |
| He shoves, pushes, thumps, bruises, cuts, scrapes, or chokes you. | |
| He gives you the silent treatment or uses guilt to get his way. | |
| He drinks alcohol, uses drugs, or picks fights. | |
| He hurts your pets. | |
| He threatens to take the children away or abandon you. | |
| He isolates you from friends and family or prevents you from accessing any support system. | |
| He threatens to harm himself or others. | |
| He forces you to have sex or touch you when you don’t want him to. | |
| He threatens to kill you. | |
| He constantly quizzes you about where you have been, who you were with, and what you discussed. | |
| He Sends you abusive texts, emails, or via any other social media. | |
| He sends you electronic viruses. | |
| He posts improper or enticing information on the internet, with your private information available. | |
| He follows you everywhere–he stalks you. |
If you answer yes to any of these questions, please call a local safe house or shelter or the NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE OPEN 24/7 at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE); or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD HEARING IMPAIRED).
Call for help to create a personalized, practical, safe plan that includes ways for you and your children to remain safe now, while you are planning to leave, and after you leave. Here are some links for a safety plan.
http://www.thehotline.org/get-help/safety-planning/
https://ncadv.org/personalized-safety-plan
Know the Facts of Domestic Violence
- 1 out of every 3 women is abused at least once in their lifetime, including Christian women.
- Domestic violence happens in all kinds of families, financial status, cultures, locations, races, religious, and age groups throughout the world.
- Victims never control an abuser’s attitude, words, or actions, and therefore they are not to blame for the abuse.
- Abuse is motivated by power and control. It is not about anger. Anger management methods do not work because they do not address the root cause of abuse. Abusers believe it is okay for them to be disrespectful, dishonoring, violent, or use any other means to keep power and control in a relationship.
- Drug or alcohol abuse may intensify the existing abuse, but it does not cause domestic violence.
- Abusers choose to abuse.
- Every 9 seconds in the United States, a woman is battered by her husband or partner. The FBI estimates abuse will happen to 1 out of every 2 women in their lifetime.
- Domestic violence includes physical, verbal, emotional, or psychological abuse resulting in low self-esteem, depression, and loneliness for the victim.
- Studies show in an abusive home, 50-70% of children are also being abused. Children suffer physical, emotional, cognitive, behavioral, and developmental impairments from witnessing domestic violence at home.
I have provided my summaries of formal descriptions of domestic violence and abuse information on this website that are not legal descriptions. If you have any questions, please call the National Domestic Abuse Hotline and talk to a professional trained in abuse and domestic violence. Also, look up local safe houses or shelters for abused women for help.
www.NCADV.org National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
