Until we discover how to let Christ’s perfect love flow in us and work through us, we can be easily deceived into thinking we just need to find our “perfect love,” in another person.
Whether you grew up in a loving home or you didn’t, you may struggle to feel you are worthy to be loved or that you are truly loved.
I began to understand that my identity didn’t come from the conditions of my birth, what people said, how I felt, the experiences I had, or the value others placed on me.
When you believe your identity originates or it is determined by imperfect people (including yourself), you will constantly feel a need to prove yourself, fix yourself, or punish yourself.
Although lust starts as a thought, you must keep thinking on it for it to become a temptation.
Choosing to stay in my first thirteen-year abusive marriage almost ended in my death and my ex-husband’s death. Love fantasies are destructive, unwise, and deadly.
Depending on the dynamics, standards, and version of love you grew up with you may not realize Christ’s love design. You may have accepted that being disrespected, blamed, shamed, and abused is normal when the person apologizes.
The first step to changing your design of love is to realize that your design is broken and unhealthy. The next step is to find a love design that is pure, respectful, and honoring and to live in this design.
Although you can’t instantly wipe your broken love design clean like the memory in a corrupted computer, you can choose a new code for your broken love design to follow.
I love spaghetti, I love music, and I love you; [...]